These past twelve months were our personal light year – I still can’t believe our little girl turned one on Sunday!
Yet, it was such a joy seeing Ava celebrate this big milestone with both of our moms. We weren’t able to throw her the birthday party that we would have wanted given a resurgence of coronavirus cases in our State. Yet, we made it work – with Baby Shark decorations and many gifts from family and friends who showered Ava with love from afar. Ava really got into the tearing of wrapping paper; it was fun to watch her open presents.
As we close out the past year as new fathers, we are also laying the groundwork for our growing family. In addition to our new pug puppy, Poncho, we are also preparing for… (drum roll, please), our journey to give Ava a little brother.
As many of you know, we initially tried for twins, but unfortunately, one of the embryos did not take. In many ways, it was a blessing in disguise as we had our hands full with just baby Ava who got 100% of our love and attention. But now, we are well on our way to giving Ava a brother to play and fight with. It’s important for us to have them be close in age so we are moving fast.
Moving fast is a bit of a misnomer, much of the work that we’ve been doing has truly taken a bit of time to line up behind the scenes. Particularly because finding an amazing surrogate to give us the gift of life is no easy feat; these amazing women are truly unicorns. We went on a waitlist shortly after discovering that Ava’s twin had not successfully implanted way back in February of 2019!
Some of you might be asking, but why didn’t you work with Ilsa? Tía Ilsa is Ava’s amazing surrogate and now part of our extended family. Unfortunately, while we really wanted to, some complications during our last pregnancy made that impossible. Our fertility doctors at San Diego Fertility Center reviewed the case and found those same complications would likely reoccur putting both Ilsa and our baby’s life in jeopardy.
But, in a stroke of good luck, we have been matched with our new amazing surrogate, Mandi! Mandi lives in the suburbs outside of Minneapolis, she is married and has two of the most adorable kids, ever. We’ve really enjoyed getting to know Mandi and her family and recently got a chance to spend time together in person while we were visiting San Diego for a check-up at our clinic. Mandi has a heart of gold – she’s genuine and her reasons for wanting to help us build our family are grounded in a place of love. We can’t thank enough our agency, IARC, for their knack for finding people like Mandi and Ilsa who restore our faith in humanity, every day.
Many folks will likely ask, will Ava’s brother be biologically related to her or will you be using a different egg donor? The answer is – her little brother will actually be her half sibling. We created all of our embryos at the same time way back in 2018, so technically, Ava’s little brother will be her fraternal half-twin who has been cryogenically frozen in time while she’s been growing out here with us! We also know the gender of our remaining embryos since we did do initial genetic screening in order to detect any early genetic abnormalities that might impact our success rate. So, all of this is very sci-fi, but in a good way. It will make for a great story.
Things really are moving at warp speed. But, we will continue to update you all on our journey towards making our dream a reality. As they say, the best it yet to come. And if the last year is any indication, there are great things in store for the ever-growing Aguirre family.