Our baby girl Ava is running. It’s been amazing to see her tentative steps become steadier in such a short time. Ava’s mobility evolution is no different than our journey as new parents. You start off unsure, overwhelmed and anxious. As the months pass you start to feel more confident. And then voila, you’re a year in and feeling like you got this.
Whether that parental bravado is misplaced or not, we are running right towards having baby #2. And as of this writing, we are officially 3 months pregnant with one baby boy! Hello 2nd trimester!
Our baby boy is due April 3rd, 2021 – an Aries is heading our way in six short months and we couldn’t be more thrilled.
In our last update, we mentioned traveling to San Diego to meet our new surrogate, Mandi. What we intentionally left out was the purpose of our visit – our embryo transfer. We also left out a bit of the drama that ensued.
On that fateful day, we were delighted to finally get to meet Mandi in person after months of FaceTime, texts and phone calls. We woke up early that morning to drive to San Diego (we were staying in Palm Springs for a few weeks on vacation). The drive was uneventful, and we arrived at the fertility clinic a bit early.
As we pulled up, we received a phone call from the clinic advising us that the embryo that we thawed was somehow damaged in the process and only half of the cells were showing signs of life. This was devastating news as we only had 2 male embryos left and the one that we prioritized had scored much higher in our Pre-Genetic Screening. We were advised to thaw the final remaining embryo and hope for the best.
We waited nervously in the clinic for 30 minutes while they thawed the new embryo and continued to monitor the cell reproduction of the first one in the hope that it might recover. We asked to speak to Dr. D, our fertility doctor to get his professional opinion on how our chances stood given the revelations of that morning.
A nurse came in first to share telescopic photos of the two embryos – the first was still alive and reproducing cells, but we could see that half of it had no cell division. The second embryo looked promising, however, we were still concerned that it had previously scored much lower genetically than the first embryo.
Dr. D came in with an idea that scared us to death. He outlined the pros/cons of both embryos and recommended we transfer both. He explained that either embryo would have roughly a 50-60% chance of successfully implanting. But, by transferring both – that chance would increase to 80%. Of course, we would also have the potential that both embryos would implant and we’d end up with fraternal twins. While that news would have been welcome the first time we did this process, we are certainly not signing up for twins now given that we have a 1 year old.
With Mandi’s blessing, we rolled the dice and implanted both embryos. The transfer was successful and early on, Mandi took several home pregnancy tests that immediately indicated that she was pregnant. She also had many symptoms – nausea, sensitivity to smells and certain foods that gave us confidence that things were looking good for us.
The good news kept coming, at the 8-week mark we had our first ultrasound and confirmed we had a healthy, single baby boy growing rapidly with a strong heartbeat. And, just this past Tuesday, we had another sonogram that showed our little guy was growing fast – squirming around and making little faces.
Even our last appointment was not drama free. While we were FaceTiming with Mandi and the OB doctor, Dr. Schoel could not find a heartbeat with two different sound wave machines. So, within 15 minutes, we were having an unplanned ultrasound to confirm our baby boy was still thriving – we were relieved to find him dancing around with a 150 heart beats per minute.
It was a blessing to get that confirmation. This process is never easy – there are a lot of ups and downs. But we are so fortunate for many things including two successful first embryo transfer attempts and two amazing surrogates who are simply the most amazing women in the world. I don’t want to tempt fate by declaring victory, we still have several months to go before our family is finally complete. But boy does it feel good.
We might not know what life has in store for us, but we’re running, not walking, right into this next chapter as happy as can be.